For some time, I have been contemplating how pain and painful experiences impact us. Recently, I have come to the conclusion that if I live long enough (yes, I already have) I will experience some things that I will feel are painful. However, the key difference between this, and suffering is choice about how I approach this.
I can choose to dwell on what happened, what I wish had happened, what I wanted (or needed to happen) instead, etc. OR I can choose to allow myself to experience the event(s), process my feelings and ultimately let go and return to being at peace. The former will lead to suffering, feeling as if life is happening to me and I am out of control. The latter leads to greater awareness, a feeling of being further empowered and knowing how to move forward. If I choose the latter, the end result is always the same! I am able to feel grateful.
NO! This is not easy, in fact at times it may be quite challenging, but it is always possible.
I have taken this approach to relationships, health challenges, spiritual matters and many other areas in my life and when I do so the lessons come with greater ease. This is my hope and desire for myself and all others.